All the single ladies, all the single ladies! Put your hands up!
Frankly, I’m very relieved that guys who have liked me didn’t put a ring on it. That would mean that I would be bound in a marriage with a jerk, a cheater, a non-believer, or anything else that would make me incompatible with someone. People make jokes about me being “forever alone” or an old cat lady but really? I’d be happy either way. There’s absolutely no doubt that being a wife and mother would be an astonishingly amazing experience and gift but that life isn’t suited for everyone.
Would I be happy settled down with kids right now? You bet your bottom dollar, that’s a NO! Absolutely not. Why you ask?
Because that means that I would’ve married one of the guys I’ve known previously. No thank you.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Some boys and men that I have met will be amazing husbands and fathers…. some day… but not this day. They have a lot of growing up to do. And…. Fingers are pointing back at me, as well. Yes, I have growing up to do as well. Heck, I am 22 years old. Am I going to wallow in self pity until my prince charming arrives? Nope! What kind of beautiful princess would I be huddled in a corner with mascara staining my cheeks? That would NOT be a good first impression. I’d rather be strong, courageous, and sure of myself when he arrives. “La la la la… oh wow, look at that amazingly determined young woman. What a beaut?! Here’s a rare creature, folks, a woman with high self esteem! She’s just like my momma!” Girls, be honest with yourselves, guys do not like girls who fish for compliments all the time. Compliment yourself! Say something amazing about yourself every day. You know you are amazing in, at least, ten different ways so state them! No woman likes an insecure guy who can’t do anything for himself and a guy doesn’t want that in a woman!
GO FORTH AND CONQUER!
Own your singleness and embrace it. This is a time to be anything but pitiful. This is a time to go learn a new craft, take a cooking class in France, own a dog… or five… eat ice cream in your favorite comfy pajamas and go without shaving your legs for however long you want. Be yourself! Be flirty, be sassy, be dramatic, be a boss, be quirky, be sporty, be whoever YOU are, BE HAPPY. For Pete’s sake, ladies, you will never be happy if you rely on someone else for your happiness. It’s the God honest truth because people will fail you. I’m sure you can think of, at least, one person in your life who has let you down. Do you want to add even more pressure to a relationship by relying on that person to make you happy all the time? No thank you because guys are dense, honey. They don’t get it.
***From a single lady to another single lady. Embrace your awesomeness and learn new things about yourself before you decide to let him put a ring on it, whoever he may be…